Ananda Marga Universal Forum: 09/02/17

Saturday, September 2, 2017

Monk and Marriage

Baba

Monk and Marriage

Note: This letter is only for those who have reverence for Sadguru Baba Shrii Shrii Anandamurti ji and try to learn and follow His Ananda Marga ideology.

Namaskar,

Here is an important topic that is vital for the health, stature and well-being of our Wt cadre. You must have seen some time, an avadhuta and an avadhutika conducting an Ananda Marga marriage ceremony. This letter examines whether this is appropriate - or contrary to the codes and ethics of being a wholetimer Dada and Didi.

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A conflict of interest if Wts engage in marriage dealings

Our Wt Dadas and Didis must not be involved in arranging and performing marriages / weddings. Yet there are many instances of Wts performing marriage ceremonies. But this is against our Ananda Marga system and contrary to the ethic of being an avadhuta / avadhutika.

Here are specific reasons why our Wt Dadas and Didis must not engage in marriage ceremonies.

1. At DMC’s before 1990, family acaryas were involved day-long in conducting marriages - not our whole timer Dadas and Didis.

There must be maximum family acaryas for performing marriage

2. Wt’s are to create Wts from our unmarried youths and family acaryas are to create family margiis from our unmarried youths. Thus both Wts and family acaryas are drawing upon the same pool of candidates. In a sense, the Wts and family acaryas are in a recruiting competition with one another. Both are trying to convince our same margiis youths to become either a (a) wholetimer or (b) married person. But if suddenly, Wts are earning money by arranging marriages, then that creates a conflict of interest for them. They will not attend to their allotted duty of creating Wts because there is a financial reward for conducting marriages. By this way they are going against their Wt code of conduct and shirking their duties and responsibilities. As a result, the number of new Wts is shrinking day by day.

3. At present, family margiis are not getting family acaryships due to exploitation by some Wt Dadas and Didis. Those Wts think that, “If I attend to the duties of family acaryas by conducting marriages then I will get double respect.” But this is the wrong approach. Instead there should be maximum family acaryas for arranging and performing marriages.

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Why some wts leave their Wt ship & marry themselves

4. The problem with Wt Dadas and Didis performing marriages is that some become so psychically involved in that endeavour that they themselves eventually leave their Wt-ship to marry someone. The operative factor is: As you think so you become. Thus Wts must not be psychically plunged in arranging, conducting, and performing marriages. That will undermine and threaten their very existence.

Marriage is related with family affairs. It is the duty of family acaryas to arrange and solemnize marriage etc. It should be done by family acaryas. And if there is a shortage of family acaryas, then more family acaryas should be created so WT’s can be given freedom to do their own duty, that of creating WTs.

If someone takes another’s duty, it creates problems. The duty of a dog is to provide security to the home. And if that same work is performed instead by a donkey, it will create a mess. In the middle of the night if thieves came and the dogs kept quiet, and instead the donkeys started braying and calling out “hee-haw, hee-haw”, it will not be very good. By hearing the braying of donkeys in the middle of the night, the house owner will not understand what in the world is going on. In frustration he may beat the donkey for creating disturbance in the middle of the night. And the thieves will take away all the goods. Similarly, in Ananda Marga, Baba has separated the duty. For presiding over marriages etc, Baba has created family acaryas. In this WT’s should not poke their nose.

Yes, WT’s should from the Centre level control the marriage board along with the family acaryas. But for arranging marriages, it is the duty of family Margiis. Due to not following this rule, we have lost many WT’s, unfortunately. WT’s should increase the number of WTs, by inspiring youths not to marry but to dedicate their lives for service to humanity at large.

Against the code of avadhuta / avadhutika

5. Sadguru Baba has given the below rule for all avadhutas, avadhutikas, and Wts:

Baba has given the following conduct rule for Wts-- “One should not look at the face of the opposite sex.” (1)

According to Guru, no Wt Dada or Didi should look at the face of the opposite sex. Yet when conducting any marriage ceremony those Wts are sitting directly across from the opposite sex and staring directly at them. So those avadhuta and avadhutikas performing marriages are contravening the above conduct rule. Actually they are fake avadhutas / avadhutikas etc.

Sadguru Baba has given the rule and it should be strictly followed, but they are going against the rule by performing marriage ceremonies. If our own Wt Dadas and Didis do not follow this Wt conduct rule, then who is going to follow it: Priests, mullahs, rabbis, ministers etc? This code of conduct is for our wholetimer Dada and Didis and they must abide by it.

Conclusion

By all of the above it is very evident that there is absolutely no scope for our Wt Dadas and Didis to participate in any aspect of the marriage process. This is solely the work of family acaryas. About this there is no doubt.

In Him,

Sahadeva

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Here below one male Wt and one female Wt are presiding over a wedding ceremony of one Margi.

Here above one male Wt and one female Wt are presiding over a wedding ceremony of one Margi.

Unfortunate Happening

Note: Many times you might have heard that x or y Wt has thrown away their saffron garb and married another Wt. There are many causes behind this degeneration, but one of the main causes is they are overindulgent in arranging marriages. And due to this their mind degenerates. Here follows one example-- unfortunately, recently in North India, in this very year 2016, one male Wt and a female Wt threw away their sannyasii dress and got married.

References

1. 37 Wt Worker’s Rules, point #15

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